Gossip is BAD

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about gossip. I have a love/hate relationship with gossip. Gossip has caused me a lot of pain. Gossip has gotten me in lots of trouble. Gossip has made me say things about people that I don’t even mean. I really mostly just hate gossip.

Gossip seems to slip into our lives so easily. There we are, just hanging out with our friends, when all of a sudden we realize we just spent an hour tearing people down. Gossiping.

I use to really struggle with gossip. It’s not like I never gossip, I gossip and I wish I didn’t and I try really hard not to. I really do. But that’s one of my weaknesses I think. Several (several, several) years ago, I was sitting at a table in Applebee’s with some friends and our youth pastor. About an hour or so into dinner, our pastor pointed out that the entire time we were eating, we were just sitting there gossiping. She started “the challenge,” a challenge to not gossip. I never really thought much about gossip before then. It was one of those sins that you do without even realizing it.

Gossiping is bad. It’s not just kind of bad, gossip is really, really, really, really, really bad. Like super duper bad. Here’s some scriptures that you’ve probably already heard to just back me up.

Proverbs 16:28 A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends.

Proverbs 21:23 Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.

Proverbs 20:19 Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler.

James 1:26 If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless.

Matthew 12:36 I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak

Psalm 101:5 Whoever slanders his neighbor secretly I will destroy.

Titus 3:2 To speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people.

 

That’s just a few. There’s a ton more, but I couldn’t put every verse that tell us that God hates gossip. One of my favorite verses that I posted is Proverbs 20:19. It tells us not to associate with a simple babbler. I don’t know about you, but I know that there are certain people that when I’m around them, I can’t seem to not gossip. Several months ago, I started to slowly get away from those relationships. I don’t want to be in a friendship with someone that will cause us to both gossip all the time.

Here’s the thing that I’ve learned in the past 5 or so years. Gossip is stupid. It’s a big fat waste of time. Not only is it a huge fat sin, it makes you frustrated and angry about things you can’t change. Gossip doesn’t do anything. You know what does do something? Building up your friends. Telling your friend that you gossip with that you don’t want to gossip anymore. It’s not easy, but usually the other person will agree and you can both work on not gossiping together.

Sometimes you just have to cut relationships off completely. If you’ve done everything you can, and you can’t seem to not gossip with certain people, cut them off. Is it really worth being destroyed over? You will one day be held accountable for all the careless words you say. That’s heavy. And scary.

I often find myself repenting for gossiping. I think it’s something we should probably all do.

Here’s one of my big fat pet-peeves. When I hear people gossip about their friends. I was a big gossip and I’d run my mouth like no one’s business. The one thing I didn’t do though, was gossip about my friends. Why would I do that? I like my friends! I’d gossip about people I didn’t like. I don’t understand why people gossip about their friends. That’s one thing I’ll just never be able to wrap my head around.

Please don’t gossip. God hates it. It ruins your friendships. No one wants to be friends with a gossip. Be nice.

1 Thessalonians 4:11 aspire to live quietly, and to mind your own affairs

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